Good to be a Grubbs

"Give thanks to the LORD for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting." (Ps 118:1)

Thursday, May 31, 2012

The Joys of Being a Father


Today was a relatively uneventful day. As our paperwork continues to be processed, our schedule allowed for a morning of sightseeing.  Below are pics and vids from our day.
Two things you can pray for:
  1. Ruthie's health.  Our girl now has antibiotics roaring through her system and she's gnawing through out the day to get those teeth to come through.  She's on the mend.  
  2. Visit to Mao Ming.  Lord willing, we will travel tomorrow to the city where Ruthie was born. On one hand, we are really looking forward to seeing the orphanage where she has lived and meeting the people who have cared for her. On the other hand, we are not necessarily looking forward to an all-day car ride with a little one through winding roads in China.  Aside from the travel, tomorrow should also be an emotion roller coaster as we visit the place where she was found.  Covet your prayers there.

Earlier as I sat on a hotel floor playing tea party, enjoying Skyping our boys, and now as I watch our 18-month girl fast asleep, I am awed by the wonder of adoption. People sometimes wonder if a parent can love a child they adopt in the same way that they love a child who is born biologically into their family. Rest assured—this is not a problem when I look at Lawson, Fletcher, and Ruthie. My heart sometimes feels like it is bursting with love for each of them, and I cannot imagine loving any one of them more…or less. They are without exception fully my children, and I am without hesitation gladly their father.
 
In this way, simply spending time with my children sometimes seems like a primer on the beauty of salvation. I’m reminded of J.I. Packer’s words:
What is a Christian? The richest answer I know is that a Christian is one who has God as Father. If you want to [know] how well a person understands Christianity, find out how much he makes of the thought of being God’s child, and having God as his Father. If this is not the thought that prompts and controls his worship and prayers and his whole outlook on life, it means that he does not understand Christianity very well at all.
To know God as Father and the privilege that such is - is truly mind boggling!  I would encourage you to let this thought sink in for a minute.  Know that your relationship with God is only possible because He has adopted you. God planned to adopt you, He pursued you, and He has paid the price for you to become His child (see Ephesians 1:3-14). This reality, this pleasure should prompt and control every Christian.
This is why Packer goes on to say:
Adoption is the highest privilege that the Gospel offers: higher even than justification. This may cause raising of eyebrows, for justification is the gift of God on which since Luther evangelicals have laid the greatest stress, and we are accustomed to say, almost without thinking, that free justification is God’s supreme blessing to us sinners. Nonetheless, careful thought will show the truth of the statement we have just made.That justification – by which we mean God’s forgiveness of the past together with his acceptance for the future – is the primary and fundamental blessing of the Gospel is not in question. Justification is the primary blessing, because it meets our primary spiritual need. We all stand by nature under God’s judgment. His law convicts us, guilt gnaws at us, making us restless, miserable, and in our lucid moments afraid. We have no peace in ourselves because we have no peace with our Maker. So we need the forgiveness of our sins, and assurance of a restored relationship with God, more than we need anything else in the world. And this the Gospel offers us before it offers us anything else. But this is not to say that justification is the highest blessing of the gospel. Adoption is higher, because of the richer relationship with God that it involves.
To think of it…in Christ, we have not only been declared right before God the Judge (as if that were not enough). But we have also been loved by God the Father.  Indeed, salvation is not about reciting a superstitious prayer; it’s about receiving the position of a son. 
Packer’s words, and the truth of Scripture beckon each of us to ask, “Do we know God as Father?” Not, “Do you read your Bible? Do you go to church? Have you prayed the prayer? Have you made the decision?” But, “Do you know that you are a child of God, and does His reality as your Father prompt and control your entire being—your thinking, your talking, your feeling, your working, dreaming, your spending, your praying, your studying, your loving, and your living?”
I would encourage you to be reminded today, in the same way that I am reminded this evening as I nestle beside my new daughter, that our Father loves His children without exception and gives to each of them all the staggering privileges that divine sonship affords.  This is truly amazing!  

I would apologize for the personal ramblings - but then again that's what blogs are for right?



Our little Ruthie hates books.  Grows unsettled every time a book is opened.  That is all books except this one.  It's both comical and moving to see her attachment to the above book.  It is a photo book Nat had made of Ruthie's brothers (Lawson and Fletcher).  She literally carried this around all day today - white knuckled and insisting on having us flip through it during random parts of the day.
First experience of Fried Potatoes - she's well on her way to being a good American for sure
Same picture book of Ruthie's brothers
At the medical center awaiting antibiotics.  Our guide Rebecca is a family friend of the local doctor so we were able to get right in without a wait.  Such a blessing
Sightseeing at the Chen Family Exhibit Hall.  Incredible history.
Same picture book of Ruthie's brothers



We enjoyed a tutorial in customary Chinese tea making at the house of Chen.  Tried at least six different teas.  Some required more bravery than others.




Miko - guide and friend
Sightseeing is exhausting.


Same book of Ruthie's brothers






Tuesday, May 29, 2012

It is Wednesday, May 30 - our third day with Ruthie.  Last night was filled with periodic episodes of crying.  It's hard to distinguish whether these are a result of physical pain or emotional in nature.  Our Ruthie keeps pulling on her ears so we think an earache might be causing irritability.  Coupled with the teething - she's pretty resilient (tough cookie).  Just to be on the safe side we are going to take her to the medical center at 1:30pm today then on to the police station at 3:00pm where we apply for her Chinese passport. 

One of the more touching moments last night was watching her rock herself in her sleep.  She has this violent rolling back and forth that she does and our minds quickly picture her in the orphanage just a few short days ago.  Sure, she had orphanage staff that took good care of her but she didn't have a mommy.  This was probably something she did countless times before to put herself to sleep as no one else was there to do so.  This was tough for mama to watch.  Now she has someone to shush her to sleep, rub her back, play with her hair, and kiss her forehead.  A hot orphanage room crowded with baby cribs is no longer in her future.  We are grateful for our Ruthie.

Here are more pics of my girls.  The process that is required to obtain Ruthie's visa comes in stages so we have blocks in our schedule that allow me to take my girls out.  I enjoy standing behind the camera.  There is more video as well (per request of the boys - they like the vids - wanting to see the action!).

My girls before dinner on Tuesday.  They walk into the lobby of our hotel and instantly light up the room - commanding attention from all around.  The locals are not sure what to do with a read-hed holding a Chinese girl.
After dinner stop at the local fountain.
Ruthie's first ice cream experience.  She was not a big fan of the cold. 
Extremely trusting - she would have jumped in if we had let her.
Soak and wet cuteness
Guangzhou at night in front of the Garden Hotel.
Pics at the garden after breakfast.  Day 3 and we're really starting to see Ruthie come out.   She loves her mama.



Tried to feed the fish but Ruthie was more interested in feeding herself.  The girl can eat!
Met a family from Florida who just adopted a 3 year old boy the same day that we adopted Ruthie.  Friendships are quickly made with those who are walking through the same thing as you are. They also adopted a girl from China back in 2006.

Lawson and Fletcher - there were tons of fish!





 MEDICAL UPDATE: Just got back from the medical center - Ruthie does have an ear infection so we're glad we went.  Now have antibiotics and Ruthie is on the mend.

Big Brothers In Waiting

Bath time and bed for Ruthie.  Our little girl is teething so we would appreciate the prayers there.  During these down times we love to catch up with our boys.  Lawson and Fletcher - Mommy and Daddy love you very much! We love seeing the pictures from your day.  Thanks for praying for little sis and always remember - PROTECT and HONOR!

The Neals took our knights to the Chick-fil-a special for Memorial  Day.  Nothing like Chick-fil-a biscuits and ice cream sundaes for breakfast.

Our big ball player!
Swing for the fences LawDawg
Fletchinator working hard in the garden

Not sure what the Neals are doing with our boys right here.  Concerning???


The boys keep up with us through the blog. We love to Skype with them as well.  Fletch kept talking to Nat on the video expecting her to answer.
Castle Park is one of our favorite destinations.

Our China Memorial Day Gift == New PJ's


Lawson and Fletcher - Mommy and Daddy love you to the moon and back!

Monday, May 28, 2012

China Official

Well my girls are napping soundly.  That means dad is assigned to a Trust Mart run and blog duty.  We have had Ruthie for almost 24 hours now.  We're smitten to say the least.  We Skyped the boys this morning and introduced them to their new little sister.  Lawson was in full scale indian attire and Fletcher was his usual charming self.  They're going to be excellent big brothers for sure.

Today was another banner day.  Yesterday was Gotcha day (life-changing).  Today we re-visited the Civil Affairs office where the Chinese government took one last look over our adoption papers, interviewed us, took our picture for adoption registration, and declared Ruthie legally ours according to China law.

Aside from being China official, Natalie and I are beside ourselves as to how well Ruthie has taken to us. Yesterday she was the most "vocal" little thing in the Civil Affairs office - "outshining" all other children in the room that day - she was a "star".  She has a pair of lungs on her so Children's Choir look out.  Today we were a different family walking back into the Civil Affairs office. No tears, no fearful postures - just perfectly contempt to be with mommy - ever trusting and enjoying life.  Natalie and I sat in the same room where we just were the previous afternoon and were amazed.  God continues to be kind.

On top of this, Ruthie appears to be feeling much better.  On Gotcha day we discovered she had a fever and diarrhea (wonderful condition for Gotcha day right?).  Today, no fever, no diarrhea, and Ruthie's appetite rivals her brothers.  Here are pics from the morning (thank you for praying).
 
Girls require so much more to get ready in the morning.  Ruthie sat in the mirror with mommy - fascinated with her makeup bag.
After an exhausting previous day (it was exhausting for us - can't imagine the toll it had on her) Ruthie slept like a rock - nuzzled right between us.  Every now and then she would let out a deep sigh, low snore, or forcefully swing over rubbing her hands past our arms.  Special moments that we will cherish!

Walking with Rebecca (our guide/friend) and adoption group back to the Civil Affairs office.

Mom with Rebecca and sleeping baby.  We would be lost without Rebecca.   From the paperwork to visits to the pharmacy and everything in between.  If she were not there I would probably still be in a store somewhere wandering aimlessly through the aisles.


Preparing for our Adoption Registration pic.  Ruthie knows how to work a camera.
Just nineteen hours ago Ruthie sat in this exact room filled with 30-35 other children without parents.  Today she sits with Mom and Dad.

Sore gums and constantly gnawing on things equals teething
The curtain behind my girls is what separates the children from adopting families on Gotcha day.  It was through this curtain that Ruthie was walked out and delivered into our arms.
Our adoption group - now bonded for life in a special way.
From the right:
The Pattersons from Michigan with Savannah
The Grubbs with Ruthie
The Addingtons from Oklahoma with Jacii.
I am sure to yell "Gig'em Aggies" to the big guy Jay as often as I can.